You won’t make a mistake I’ll be guiding you

On August 8, 2020, I wrote this Note from the Listening Gallery to celebrate the 40th anniversary of the release of the film, XANADU: https://thelisteninggallery.com/2020/08/08/building-your-dream-has-to-start-now-theres-no-other-road-to-take/

Five years ago, Olivia Newton-John was alive. Jeff Lynne, songwriter, vocalist, and founder of Electric Light Orchestra was healthy and on my bucket list of beloved artists yet to see live in concert. My daughter and I were tucked away in our cozy little home, hoping to remain safe from the deadliest pandemic in a century. Today, a day late because I had so very much to say that it took an extra day to edit this tribute down to a readable length, I honor the memory of Olivia Newton-John on the third anniversary of her passing, and the 45th anniversary of the release of Xanadu with an updated Note on my affection for the film, Olivia, ELO, and their everlasting and ever-evolving influence upon my life.

Olivia Newton John’s presence in my life: I have admired Olivia and her music since I was four years old, when her American breakthrough album and single Let Me Be There dominated the country charts in 1973. Her talent was recognized by the Country Music Association, by awarding her with the 1974 Best Female Performer title over fellow nominees including Dolly Parton, Loretta Lynn, and Tanya Tucker. Between 1973 and 1977, Olivia released fifteen singles, ten of those reached number one on the country and/or pop charts. In that same timeframe, she released seven top-ten country albums. For 45 years, Olivia held the Guinness World Record for the shortest gap of just 154 days between new number one albums by a female artist on the US Billboard album charts with If You Love Me, Let Me Know and Have You Never Been Mellow until 2020 when Taylor Swift achieved two number one albums in 140 days. In 1978, Olivia appeared in her first American feature film, an adaptation of the Broadway musical, Grease, and became the number one most influential artist in my life. Two years later, she was cinematically immortalized as one of the nine daughters of Zeus in the musical fantasy film, Xanadu.

Olivia’s deeply principled and remarkably generous philanthropic work for the health of the Earth and all life on it are the reasons why I have continued to admire her throughout my adult life. In 2006, I had the profoundly fortunate opportunity to meet her when she performed in the small city where I resided for 35 years. She was exactly as I had always imagined her to be, gracious and genuine. Backstage, after the show, she talked with me as if I had been a part of her history as much as she had been a part of mine. She signed my Grease poster from 1978 and my Let Me Be There album from 1973. I presented her with a gift from my seven-year-old daughter, the drawing below. Tears formed in the corners of Olivia’s eyes. She shared that she too had just one little girl, and her little girl was all grown up now, and she loved her so dearly that she could not accept my daughter’s drawing. She explained that one day, that piece of paper would mean far more to me than I could possibly know that day, and she asked me to save it and treasure it. I heeded her advice and tucked it inside of my autographed album. Upon Olivia’s passing, my daughter was “all grown up.” I told her the story and revealed the treasure inside of the album that had been framed on our living room wall for sixteen years. I placed the record on our turntable. Tears streamed from my eyes as we sang along to every track and I experienced the unmatched joy of hearing the pops and crackles exactly as I had heard them 40 years earlier.

In 2022, one month after Olivia departed from this world, I traveled to Los Angeles to pay proper tribute alongside my dearest friend from my years of living there–the one who first took me to the majestic rocks of Point Dume at Zuma Beach in Malibu, the spot from which Gene Kelly’s character first appears in Xanadu. She and I lunched at the beach that day and reminisced about Olivia–she and my friend had once been neighbors in Malibu. We cut flowers from my friend’s garden and delivered them to Olivia’s star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. And of course, we listened to the Xanadu soundtrack as we travelled down Sunset from the beach to Hollywood.

Jeff Lynne & Electric Light Orchestra’s presence in my life: I was absolutely spellbound from the very first time I heard Electric Light Orchestra’s “Strange Magic” in 1975 at Topp Cats Roller Rink.That classically arranged string intro so gracefully segued into a typical mid-1970s voice and guitar ballad piece, and then, WOW! All sorts of soaring, sonic sounds, unlike anything I had ever heard before, rushed in to join the strings and guitar to reach a stirring crescendo. Fifty years later, as I listen to this song, I recall the heady experience of the rink floor rapidly moving under me. I feel the muscle memory of the pivot in my feet. I am lifted—body, mind, and spirit…strange magic, indeed. The elegant and haunting “One Summer Dream” also from 1975’s Face the Music album, is how I began to crave the sensation of feeling music in a physical way. Whenever I heard that gorgeous string arrangement intro over the PA system, I would skate over to the corner to sit directly under the speaker mounted there and place my back against the wall to intensify the sensation of music pulsing through me. Previous to discovering ELO at the local roller rink during the summer of my sixth year of life, my musical tastes had been formed from listening to the records purchased by the adults in my family or from watching an artist on television with them. Because of my experience at Topp Cats, I have a deeply personal connection with Jeff Lynne’s Electric Light Orchestra as the first band to be my band, a musical discovery all my own.

Just ten months ago, my hometown bestie and I experienced the live magic of Electric Light Orchestra together. Throughout the past few decades, the two of us had been separated by the inevitable circumstances of adult life–jobs, families, and miles. Then last year, I returned to my hometown to press the restart button on my life. One of the very best aspects of this move has been the fact that she and I could reconnect as if the past 38 years were only a small moment in time. She and I first bonded in our preschool Sunday school class at our hometown Methodist church more than fifty years ago. As it turns out, those shared spiritual roots have proven the test of time, as we have discovered that we still share the same values. We also still share the same reverence for music and musicians that we shared at Topp Cats Roller Rink, where we first experienced ELO in 1975. Below is a video from their concert we attended together, a performance of “All Over the World.” Their “Over and Out” tour began last summer and was scheduled to end last month. Jeff Lynne’s declining health near the end of the year-long tour resulted in the cancellation of the final two shows that were set to take place a few weeks ago. Lynne has released a statement that he is unable to perform any longer and those two shows will not be rescheduled.

The impact of XANADU on my life: Nothing could have been more magical for a dreamy eleven-year-old country girl than a musical fantasy feature film starring Olivia Newton-John with a soundtrack from my favorite female vocalist AND my favorite band. On opening day, August 8, 1980, my mom drove my brother and me to Kansas City to see the film I had been eagerly awaiting all summer long. That three-hour car ride from our rural home-town to the city, was the final step in my three-month anticipation for the release of this film. We went to the theater in a district of Kansas City known as The Plaza, a beautiful and romantic area designed to replicate Seville, Spain. Dozens of gorgeous fountains and sculptures adorn fifteen blocks of shops and restaurants housed in Spanish-inspired architecture. There could not have been a more inspired setting in my home state for me to see Xanadu for the first time.

Xanadu did not disappoint. Not me, anyway. The critics, however, had a very different opinion of this musical love story on roller skates that featured multiple over-the-top fantastical dance scenes that merged the electric sounds of the 1980s with 1940s big band music. First, we meet Danny, an elegant elder musician, biding his time by wistfully playing his clarinet on the beach near his Malibu mansion. Next, we are introduced to Sonny, a young man with big dreams, working an uninspiring job for a music label, painting replicas of album covers to be installed outside of Tower Records on Sunset Boulevard. Next, the nine daughters of Zeus are brought to life from a mural on the Venice Beach Boardwalk. This is where we first see Kira, the roller-skating muse, portrayed by Olivia Newton-John, sent by Zeus to inspire the two men. Her sisters are a multi-racial ensemble of goddesses, a boldly inclusive depiction for 1980 cinema.

The muses come to life

Upon removing herself from the boardwalk mural, Kira roller skates up the city’s coast from Venice Beach to Zuma Beach, on a muse mission to bring the young idealistic man and the older seasoned music industry professional together. Both are disgruntled by the industry for different reasons, yet share an unyielding passion for music and creativity. Kira leads them to the once illustrious, but now decaying architectural icon, the Pan Pacific Auditorium. Once Kira has lured the two men to meet in the venue, she recites Samuel Taylor Coleridge’s 1797 poem about Xanadu. Magic ensues, and in the final scene, Kubla Khan’s empirical palace built in 1256 China, is reborn as roller-disco-meets-big-band-nightclub in the Los Angeles Inland Empire.

Nearly every scene in the 96-minute film includes a magnificent dance routine on the scale of 1940s MGM musicals, all choreographed by Kenny Ortega, now a legend in the industry to nearly the entirety of America’s Gen Z young adults, because of his work in Disney’s High School Musical franchise. Then, there is the astounding fact that the elder music man’s role is played by none other than the brilliant Gene Kelly. His role as nightclub owner, Danny McGuire, from his 1944 film Cover Girl is reprised in Xanadu, which turned out to be his final film. His genuinely legendary dance technique and personal style are artfully and reverently presented, yet modernized for Generation X in a scene set in the uber-trendy 1980s Beverly Hills boutique, Fiorucci. The song for this fantastical dance number is “All Over the World” my personal favorite ELO track from the soundtrack. Though I’ve often said I cannot cite one ELO track as my all-time favorite, because so many are so beloved, this one is certainly a contender. If you do not watch any of the other clips embedded in this essay, I implore you to watch this one fully, to take in all of the splendor and excess of the 1980s at its very best and to witness the absolute genius and bona fide charm of Gene Kelly. Then imagine what this must have felt like for this eleven-year-old farm girl to witness on the big screen. There are no words to convey my level of adulation, awe, and intense longing to become a part of the music business at that time in my life.

The final scenes of Xanadu include an impassioned conversation somewhere in the Heavens between Kira’s love interest, Sonny, (the young ingenue) and her parents, Zeus and Hera. His desire to keep his muse in his world is so intense that he roller rams himself into the wall on the boardwalk where Kira’s image is depicted alongside her sisters. The closing number is so extravagant, Gene Kelly even roller dances, amidst a corps of jugglers, fire-eaters, acrobats, skaters, and dancers from multiple cultures and races, genders, and what was most likely my first witnessing of gender fluid representation.

Outside of the theater in Kansas City where I first saw Xanadu. The photo was taken on the night that Olivia Newton-John passed away, August 8, 2022.

All of this unfolded on what was likely the largest cinematic screen I had experienced at that time in my life, as well as a breathtaking showcase of Los Angeles culture with its beaches, palm trees, and stunning art-deco architecture. What’s not to love when you’re a pre-teen farmer’s daughter who has lived inside her fantasy of becoming a part of the entertainment business since she could walk and talk? I was captivated by every aspect of this film.

I had to embellish my own style a bit to emulate my new screen heroine, Zeus’s dancing, singing and most importantly, roller-skating, daughter. I adorned my white roller skates with shiny silver sticker letters bearing my initials “TNL” on the back spine of each skate under my newly purchased leg warmers. I also dressed in frilly peasant blouses and flowing prairie skirts in pastel colors. I wrapped long flowing ribbons into my barrettes, just like Kira’s, and I even draped nine of my grandma’s silky scarves from an elastic belt around my waist, in my effort to replicate and represent the nine muses’ fluttering layered dresses. Then, I floated around the rink floor at Topp Cats in this attire. Yep, seriously, I did that. At home, I stood in front of my bedroom mirror and attempted to replicate that fabulous Ortega choreography. I was particularly captivated by the number during which Kira magically transforms her visual appearance and musical style from 1940s siren, to 1980s punk, to rhinestone cowgirl, in a three-minute song titled Fool Country, which is not included on the soundtrack album, but appeared as a B-side of the “Magic” 45RPM single.

working on my dance routine to “Fool Country” from the closing scene of Xanadu.

Since I was three years old, I had wanted to become a dancer, or singer, or literally anything that would connect me to the glamour of some sort of music-related career. Until Xanadu, nearly all of my favorite media had allowed me glimpses inside New York’s entertainment industry and/or New York City itself–Funny Girl, That Girl, The Goodbye Girl, Mahogany, Annie, The Wiz and Breakfast at Tiffany’s. Xanadu was my first exposure to Los Angeles, and instantly, I was enamored. My fascination for NY was magically transported to LA. The awareness of Los Angeles as a launching point for my future career could be somewhat tethered in reality, and that concept became obsessively compelling for me. I had a great aunt and uncle who lived in Los Angeles, and perhaps one day I could go and visit them there. Seven years after seeing Xanadu, I would do just that.

By the late 1980s, a number of young women had been declared supermodels due to their appearances in rock music videos since the onset of MTV in 1981. A career as a fashion model became my plan for a role in the music industry. I had the height and the commercially determined physical attributes required for the job, and despite my most earnest efforts to acquire the skills of a professional dancer throughout my childhood, I lacked the talent.

During my first week in Los Angeles, by pure chance, my friend took me to Zuma Beach to witness for the first time, the beauty of the sun as it melts into the Pacific Ocean at dusk. That experience from 38 years ago lives in my mind and heart as if it happened last night. Not only was I spellbound by the majesty of the ocean, but at the realization that I was in the place where Gene Kelly had played his clarinet in the opening scene of Xanadu. My favorite photoshoot during my brief career in Los Angeles took place on those same rocks. Thirty summers later, I photographed my daughter in that same spot at Zuma, to ensure her dreams would one day come true as well, because I still consider Zuma Beach in Malibu to be the most magical place in the world. I try to make a pilgrimage to those rocks, to be suspended in time in my zen zone, every time I visit the glittering city of the angels. Zuma is my connection to that eleven-year-old farm girl inside of me who believed her dreams could come true at the beginning of the 1980s, as well as to that eighteen-year-old girl in me, who actually got a shot at making her dreams come true in Los Angeles at the end of the 1980s.

The eternal magic of Xanadu:

Magic was the first single from the forthcoming album. The track was released during the week of my eleventh birthday which of course, I considered not at all coincidental, but rather, purely magical. The song remained at number one on the pop charts for four weeks that summer. I was absolutely enchanted and wholeheartedly believed in the magic of those lyrics. In 1980, every word of that ethereal and intriguing song resonated with a message that inspired me to keep dreaming until I found my rightful place in the entertainment world, in some glittering and glamorous city, far away from my rural home. I wrote the lyrics again and again in my notes throughout the next few years of my life, and examined their meaning again and again, making promises to myself to keep all my hopes alive, so that my destiny would arrive.

Throughout the four decades since first hearing them, my belief in those lyrics we have to believe we are magic, nothing can stand in our way, has ebbed and flowed. Today, on the 45th anniversary of Xanadu, after five years of what sometimes feels like merciless challenge for me, and an awareness of the unprecedented hardships and loss for so many people in this world, we could all use a little bit of magic. We have to believe we are magic…we don’t have to be kissed by a muse to be inspired. Every one of us has the human ability to inspire others through compassion, kindness and empathy. Let’s be better humans, to our world and to all humans all over the world.

Magic served as the perfect sentiment to honor Olivia’s profound impact on my life and my daughter’s when Olivia left this world. In response to my grief, it was my daughter who suggested that we imprint a bit of Kira’s musing, lyrical, and magical prophecy on our arms so that forever onward, in moments of doubt, we can simply look upon ourselves and be reminded.

you won’t make a mistake

i’ll be guiding you

That’s the story of, that’s the glory of love

Thirty years ago, I was asked to pen a column for my friend Boone’s music zine, The Trouble With Normal. He asked me to write a piece titled “The Trouble with Love” for his February issue. I was eager to share my salty thoughts about romance with the cool kids on the Gen X CoMo music scene. Until last year, I still had a copy of that zine because I loved what I wrote at the time. However, like most of my belongings, I have parted with it because, in my search for new purpose and place, I have let go of lots of things I once loved. 2024 was all about looking back in the most thorough manner possible, and then letting go of the things that I only thought I dearly loved and severely needed to keep forever. Living without a home for more than a year now, I have learned that I do not need, nor love, nearly so many things as I had once thought. The memories, the people, and the places I love will remain in my heart forever, but only a few very special things remain in my possession now.

I kept the letters from my grandmas that they sent to me while I was living in Los Angeles in the late 1980s. I loved them both so much. Receiving their letters in my mailbox from nearly 2,000 miles away thrilled me every time, even though they mostly wrote about the weather, the crops, and who was (or wasn’t) at church on Sunday. I kept the little silver jewelry box with my name engraved across the lid–a high school graduation gift from my first boss, who remains one of my dearest friends and mentors. I kept the Shirley Temple doll my mom gave me when I was four years old and obsessed with becoming a Broadway performer. I kept the playbills from every Broadway performance I’ve witnessed during trips to New York City, as well as a little brass bunny we found in a gift shop during my daughter’s first NYC trip. She was born in the year of the rabbit, and she will always be my little bunny. The figurine sits near my bed and reminds me when each day starts and ends that she is always with me in heart and mind, even though she is now a college graduate and I no longer live in the place where I raised her to adulthood. I kept the large jar filled with grains of sand and pieces of rock and shells collected from our trips to Malibu throughout my daughter’s lifetime. And, I kept every Valentine card ever made for me by my daughter. These are the sweetest love notes ever written, I genuinely love them.

I made a phone call to my favorite record store last August, professing that I would be delivering my vinyl collection to them. The very next morning, I called to let them know I had changed my mind, I would be keeping my records, because I love my albums. There is nothing so satisfying as dropping the needle on a record I’ve loved for fifty years and hearing the pops and crackles in the exact places where those songs popped and crackled when I was four or five or six.

The fate of my ever-expanding library of books that I lugged from Missouri, to California, to Missouri, to Oklahoma, and back to Missouri? I chose to part with them…well, most of them. My books have been pared down to a mere two shelves of my absolute favoritest favorites. I realized that as much as I loved reading those hundreds of books, I do not go back and reread them, the way I go back and listen to my albums again and again. Upon returning to my hometown, I have been reminded of how much I had loved the cozy and charming Carnegie Library where I spent so much of my childhood. Whenever I feel the need to reread any literary classics, I simply visit my local library now, which I love. I also kept my mattress because I do truly love sleeping alone on a California king where my long limbs can sprawl out in complete comfort. My Grandma Lane’s Victrola and my Grandma Pollard’s “good dishes,” several bins full of photos and a small pile of framed art are the only other things I love, and need, and kept when I gave up my home.

My collection of books numbered several hundred a little over a year ago. I now have exactly 50 books, all of which I love.

So, what exactly is the point of this Note from the Listening Gallery? At the age of 55, I now understand that love is indeed a many splendored thing. Love comes in far more varieties than the romantic one I was so eager to debase at 25. And while I still maintain the platform from which I composed “The Trouble with Love” essay I wrote in 1995–that not everyone needs romantic love–I can also now profess that everyone needs to love and to be loved in some form.

Love can be felt like a noun, shared like a verb, described like an adjective, and heck, it can even be expressed like an interjection. LOVE! is that indescribable experience when you held that little tiny baby in your arms for the first time, and every single time you see her or think about her for the rest of your life. LOVE! is that otherworldly experience of standing in the front row with someone who loves, loves, LOVES the music from that artist just as much as you do, and finally, after years of missing the show because you had to work, or you didn’t have enough money, there you are!! You are just a few feet away from that artist you both love, and they are pouring their heart out, and right into yours.

Love is the care we give to our aging parents, because they need us to return the nurturing they gave to us when we were young. It’s given when we make ham & beans with lots of freshly chopped white onion (even though it makes our eyes burn and our nose run) because it makes Mom feel loved, because that’s the way her mom made it for her…your grandma that you also loved. Even though she’s been gone for more than a decade now, you both still think of her every day. And, because you know, that one day, hopefully a day far from today, you’ll miss your mom terribly and you’ll cry far more than those onions made you cry, when she too is gone.

These days, via social media, we express our love through a heart emoticon nearly every day–for a funny meme, a cute cat video, a compelling quote from a favorite writer, or a photo of our cousin’s new grandchild that we will probably never meet because they moved to Florida decades ago. I love to post photos on social media of sweet memories from summer family reunions when the potato salad got rancid in the sun and I was covered with so many chigger bites that I scratched my legs ’til they bled in the back seat on the way home. But I didn’t care about any of that, because I loved every minute of running through the grass barefoot, chasing fireflies with cousins that I wouldn’t see again ’til the next 4th of July. Now, I love all the love emoticons that my cousins make on my posts.

For me, love makes a beautiful sound. I hear it when that song comes on the radio and I get goose bumps on my skin because it makes me remember something or somewhere or someone or some moment I loved. Love is also the songs that remind me of the people that makes me feel safe, or understood, or just utterly and completely happy. I have always been in awe of artists who can weave words and music together into a magical tapestry that so purely and gently expresses that ethereal thing called love...

Without despair, we will share in the joys of caring.

If we’re ever parted, I will keep the tie that binds us and I’ll never let it break ’cause I love you.

More than this? You know there’s nothing more than this. Tell me one thing more than this. No, there’s nothing more than this.

Who’s gonna pay attention to your dreams?

Sometimes we’ll sigh, sometimes we’ll cry and you know why, just you and I know true love ways.

Maybe I won’t be so afraid. I will understand how everything has its plan…either way, I’m gonna stay right by you.

You gotta give a little, take a little, let your poor heart break a little…that’s the story of, that’s the glory of love.

As long as long as old men sit and talk about the weather, as long as old women sit and talk about old men, I’m gonna love you forever and ever, Amen.